Saying No to An Opening
I want to say no to this Opening but am fearful that I am making a mistake. What if I end up regretting my choice?
Choice
We have the power of choice to guide our lives. Acknowledging that we have choice in every situation is an important element of personal power and self-esteem. When we consider saying no to an Opening, we must start with the premise that it is our choice to make. Of course, we may not control all situations or events in our lives, but we do have choice in how we handle them, including whether to enter an Opening.
Many times, we allow choices to be made for us. Choices can be made by default. If we procrastinate, for example, a choice may be made without our input. If we feel we have no power in a situation, we may block your ability to choose. If we fear the results of a specific choice, we may not make the choice that is in our heart. If we have given another person or persons power over our life, they may feel they have the right to make choices for us.
When we find ourselves facing a choice of whether to enter an Opening, here are some things that may help in making the choice:
- Be conscious that a choice is before us and turn towards it, not away.
- Review the significant choices we have made in the past and what we took away from them.
- Examine whether we are letting others make choices for us.
- Determine if fear may negatively impact the choice we are making.
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The Negative Power of Regret
Do we ever make a choice completely without uncertainty? We may convince ourselves of total certainty, but it is an illusion. All choice involves risk, even as we try to protect ourselves from it. Accepting the presence of risk empowers us. Accepting the presence of the unknown greatly diminishes fear. Acting in concert with the presence of the unknown supports us in saying no to an Opening when we want to do so.
When we are considering whether to enter an Opening and are leaning towards saying no, we may be concerned about regretting our choice. We must make the best choice we can directly from the present moment, because that is all we have. From the present moment, we can assess the possible outcomes of our choice and accept the risk and uncertainty involved.
Go Ahead
Once we have spent some time considering whether to say yes or no to an Opening, it is time to make our choice. If that choice is to say no, go forward. The choice is not irreversible. We are deciding to go another way, rather than to enter an Opening. There may be things we eventually realize we have lost by not entering the Opening, however there are always things to gain as we set out on another path.
As we go forward, we can stay alert to what is happening on the path we have chosen. Are we going in a direction that works for us? Are there other Openings, changes or choices before us that we want to consider? Looking back, what do we think of the choice we made not to enter the Opening? The present moment is our place of power and we always have choice, even when other choices have already been made.
Some say that muses come when there is movement. Regardless of past choices, we are in motion. We may think our choice was great or we may feel the need for a course-correction. Either way, if we stay open, we will know what we are to do. We have made progress on our path. We are wiser and more capable of making any choices before us because we have moved forward and learned along the way.
Change is a Constant
It’s a cliché, but change is the only constant. Knowing this can refresh us by assuring that things will not stay the same. We can leave past choices behind and make new ones. We will have new options and new Openings. The future is ours to build.
I will say no to this Opening and trust my decision. In the present moment, I have done the very best I can do. Onward!
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