Grief for What Was

The landscape of my life is unrecognizable. This is disorienting. So much has changed. It is imperative that I find my way, as my life continues on. Which direction do I go in when I do not know the territory? How do I begin?

The Importance Of Releasing What Is No Longer Present

We create attachments in our lives and work. We become accustomed to how things are. When things change, we are unsettled, even if the change is for the better. In that unsettled state, we can cling to what we had before. But where does that get us if what we had is no longer there? An important part of being able to move forward after a change is to release what is no longer present in our lives.

Taking stock of what is gone and what remains allows us to be fully present to the moment we are in. Once we take stock, we must release what is no longer present. Our minds and hearts may want to hold on, hampering our ability to proceed.  We may keep looking back or trying to have past conditions inform what we do in the present. These things do not work. Our landscape has changed and requires new perspectives.

Ways We Can Release

Each one of us can find ways to release that work for us. It is a personal choice. Some release by celebrating and acknowledging what was. Others allow themselves time for sadness and other emotions, before they attempt to move on. Some move quickly, acknowledging their need to release and then not looking back.

What are the steps involved in releasing? First is recognition that we are in a new place. Second is acceptance of current circumstances and giving ourselves what we need to align with them. Third is vision – the ability to see where we are and where it may take us. Then, we can get into action.

The Transformative Power Of Grief

Some form of grief is necessary for release. Ignoring what has left us only allows grief to grow in the shadows. Grief, as painful as it is, allows us to let go. There are stages of grief and it could take some time.  Once circumstances are faced, feelings surface. These feelings must be addressed, satisfied and transformed.  The only way through is through.

As we allow grief to move within us, eventually feelings of wanting to move on begin to stir. That is a sign that we are ready to turn towards what will be. We can take stock of what remains and what to do with it. We can see new aspects of our lives and work emerging. We are free to take advantage of the present moment. Our grief is healing us.

Ready For a New Direction

Being ready for a new direction is handicapped while we still are carrying grief. As we release what has left our lives, our step is lighter and new possibilities enter. We look around our new landscape and see where we are. Our vista is wide and excitement begins to stir.